By Judith Wambui
Ever been faced by a mean comment? Well, you just got labeled. But, you can get past it.
Labels, more like the literal way of putting something in a box and naming it. Similarly, with the societies you find yourself in, there is a particular way the community expects you to live. The normal way. Normal is overrated. You couldn’t agree more to this statement. You have to find a way on how to overcome labeling. Because, once you go in contrary to what the society expects, you will get labeled for being you.
Labels can be the same as judging. You will get judged every other day. For things, you even don’t have control over. But, names are not going away any time soon.So you have to find comfortable ways of getting by them. The following tips will help on how to overcome labeling as you keep on keeping on.
One thing for sure is that we all cannot be the same. Everyone is unique in their different ways. Your definition of a good time or what makes you happy may be different to another person. One man’s trash is another man’s treasure. Just rip that bandage off and be you.
Identify the Cause for the Label
You are probably better than them. Beating them at their own game. When you try to follow keenly on why you’ve earned the nerd label at the office. May be because you are good at your job. And that’s why they are constantly hating on you and talking behind your back.
If you are not having any disputes with your boss or lecturer then you are good to go. Other people’s opinions do not matter. Often at times, people tend to be jealous of the people who are giving them a run for their money.
Deter from Falling Into Self-Pity
Labels can make you crawl into a corner and start feeling sorry for yourself. Self-pity is addictive. Because it gives momentarily pleasure and wishing away approach of issues at hand. The world always seems against you, and you feel stuck.
Like your back is always against the way. Instead of dwelling into self-pity, ask yourself, will other peoples’ opinions matter in days or years to come? No, they won’t matter. So, overcome labeling and give yourself a break because it will only make you feel worse.
Own Your Happiness as a Tip on How to Overcome Labeling
You are responsible for how you feel. When you get labeled, you can choose how to react to the negative comments. Act on them or ignore them. You shouldn’t attach validation and attention to what other people say about you.
It will feel right when you get good feelings from other people, but don’t let them get into your head. Apply the same when you get negative feelings, don’t let them get into your head as well.
Build Self Confidence
Self-confidence will help you a great deal in getting by. You can take on the world with more energy and determination which you will apply perfectly even in the event you encounter an incidence of being labeled.
You will be able to develop a positive attitude, outlook and remain at your best even when under stress. Self-confidence is a great tip on how to overcome labeling because it will mostly help you develop a thick skin against the mean comments.
Learn to Let Go
Holding on to mean judgmental remarks will not make you feel any better. It will only hold you back and derail you even more. Decide to let go. It’s a conscious choice. People will always be keeping score and judging before knowing the whole story. But, its liberating and empowering to see that you have an option to let go or hold on to the pain. Letting go is more liberating and more comfortable.
Grow Through the Pain
To avoid always lagging in your every day to day life, learn to grow with the pain. Or instead accept the situation. Judgmental remarks most times comes from things you cannot change about yourself. Such as being tall, very short, too slim, overweight or slacking behind classwork despite your numerous effort. Learn to accept them. It is not going to be easy but sometimes the only way out is through the pain.
A day or week will hardly go by without you facing judgmental remarks or labeling incidents. It is an unfair world.You will have to master the art on how to overcome labeling, you have to be a fighter, and the fight is worth the effort.
You have to keep fighting by learning to let go, owning your happiness, deter from falling into self-pity, grow through the pain and be you. Focus on you. You are an excellent fit for yourself, and you will hit the homerun. You do not need another person’s opinion or validation.
Judith Wambui is our guest writer.