See dowry budget that can offset Kenya’s debt to China

Getting a woman to marry is slowly becoming a tall order for bachelors especially with the tough economic times and the exorbitant amounts asked for during dowry payment ceremonies popularly known as Ruracios.

If some of the figures being shared online are anything to go by, many young men will cuddle themselves to sleep for years to come.

Nearly every week our friends head out of town to start dowry negotiations, dressed in fitting Ankara outfits hopeful of reaching an agreement with the girlfriend’s family.

While some settle on reasonable figures, others drive back home immersed in thought: “Is she really worth it?”

This week, a dowry payment guide’ was shared online and it evoked mixed reactions.

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The dowry payment budget that has gone viral.

The dowry payment guide which has since gone viral had totaled to Sh824, 000.Kenyans online reacted differently with some complaining of the “insane budget” owing to the hard economic times our country is facing.

“This dowry budget can pay Kenya’s debt to China,” one Calvins Otieno commented on social media. “This budget is two plots of land plus a kabiashara on top,” said another social media user.

Others agreed with the budget arguing that a woman who is educated should attract a higher dowry.

“Kama mwanamke amesoma bei inapanda,” commented one Elizabeth Njeri.

The history of dowry in our Kenyan society dates back to the olden days when different communities carried out different cultural practices in the name of dowry.

But in spite of this different variants, there is one common characteristic: the fact that money, goods or symbolic items are provided by the bridegroom (or his family) and passed into the hands of the father of the bride.

Sometime back an issue was raised on how Kenyans are grossly misusing the custom of dowry with some terming it ‘barbaric’.

After seeing the dowry payment guide that is the talk of town right now, most young men have come out to object the excessive dowry budget and some are even contemplating staying out of marriage.

Source:SDE

 

Marrying at an older age becoming a trend across the globe: Report

Couples across the world are waiting for a longer period of time before they get married and thus have a higher likelihood of cohabiting, a new report shows.

The 2019 Global Wedding Report found that marrying at older age is becoming a trend and thus cohabiting is becoming common with couples in U.K, France and Spain having roughly 9 in every ten couples living together before they get married.

According to the report, couples in religious countries like Mexico and Brazil are less likely to cohabit.

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Countries where couples are likely to cohabit. Source: 2019 Global Wedding Report

The report surveyed 20,000 recently married couples in US, UK, Canada, India, France, Mexico, Italy, Peru, Portugal, Columbia, Chile Argentina, Brazil and Spain.

It is most expensive to hold a wedding the U.S according to the report and lowest in South America.

Even with the advice peddled around on not taking loans to hold a wedding, the report found that a significant number of couples take out a loan or incur a credit card debt to finance their wedding.

Spain and Italy top on the countries where family supports the couple on their wedding costs helping them cover around two-thirds of the expenses.

Planning

According to the report, couples that have been living together before wedding tend to have shorter planning timelines. Columbian couples have the shortest wedding planning timelines- around seven months. US and Canadian couples typically start preparing for the wedding 14 months to, with UK having the longest timeline-15 months.

According to most of the 20,000 couples that were interviewed on the report, when hiring wedding vendors, the couples prioritize photography with an exception to France where catering was the top vendor category hired.

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Bride dress and the weather

Brides in the US and Europe still prefer a white dress but many seek to reflect their unique styles by having unique necklines, silhouettes, accessories among others

The weather is the largest determinant when couples are choosing their wedding day, the report says.

“September and October tend to be the peak months for weddings across Europe and North America, while weddings taking place in the southern hemisphere are most popular from October to February,” its states.

“December is the most common month for couples to get engaged throughout many countries. Canada and the U.S. had the largest percentage of engagements occurring in December,”

 

Interestingly, a wedding in Spain is likely to have an open bar while majority of weddings in the UK have champagne toast but no free-flowing beverages.

Providing a great guest experience is a must-have in many cultures.

In Spain, this might mean serving unexpected drinks like a mojito or including a beer bar, while in Chile guests may be treated to a one-of-a-kind late-night party (la hora loca).

Colombian weddings have the lowest guest count at 90, while India far surpasses all other places with an average of 524 guests.

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Parents’ Involvement

The report that polled couples from 14 different countries also reveals that a majority of couples in America seek their parent’s blessings prior to getting engaged.

” For many, this is seen as a kind gesture and sign of respect rather than a true need to secure permission. This is less common in European countries, where couples will make the decision to marry and then share the news with their parents,” states the report released in May 2019.

Further, religious as a default in wedding is declining with U.K being the least religious country  with 70 per cent of its young population saying they have no religious affiliations.

Americans, Indians and Canadians are most likely to marry someone of a different race, ethnicity or religion with 2 in every 10 couples marrying someone of a different religion, race.